I am pre t .... If u by nature are more gentle in ur behavior and intuned with other people feelings will that change with taking t ... Guess I am saying will there be drastic change or be more sutle or does it just depend on who u are ....? I have just started this journey and I am trying to navigate through all of this.... While at the same time balancing a partner who is supportive but is wanting questions answered in this process....
To be honest, that shouldn’t change much. I’ve been on T for nearly 9 months and I’ve never had “t rage”. T doesn’t drastically change your personality. However, I’ve noticed that T does amplify certain feelings in me. Like, things that I’ve been bothered by before I started have been more intense at times, specifically when my cycles are low. But if you are a more gentle person, T isn’t going to suddenly make you want to get into a bunch of fist fights.
I have been gender confused for the past few months, but now I know that I am for sure FTM. I've already told some of my closest friends, but I want to get my family to start treating me how I want to be treated. My hair was pixie cut length, but it's grown to about my shoulders. My dad said I could get it cut, but he won't let me get it that short again. I really want to tell him that it's because his daughter is actually his son, but I don't know how to do it. I'm really nervous about it .-.
I think the best thing to do is just sit him down and explain things. My Dad still complains every time I cut my hair shorter, but he doesn’t stop me from getting it cut. So I would just say that you need to have a conversation because you aren’t going to be happy living in the closet. Good luck!
I'm 15 and live in Texas. I really want to be on T but I just started gender therapy.. How do I cope with not being on T?
Congrats on starting gender therapy! I’m pretty sure that as long as you are in gender therapy you’ll get to start taking T soon. I mean I live in NC, and so long as I’m in therapy I can take t if I’m a minor. I’m not sure what the rules are in Texas, but anyway, it’s a good thing you are in gender therapy. So that’s great that you are taking that step.
I went 13 months full time as male before I could start taking T. It was hard. I wanted to move forward and at times it felt like I would never be on it. This was about a year ago that I started really feeling like this, and then 4 months later I was on it. Realise that yes, T is fantastic. But it doesn’t make you any more of the man that you are. You are already a man. T won’t change that. I mean yes, T makes you more masculine, but it won’t make you a man. You already are. I had to tell myself that constantly.
Focus on the fact that you have already made it this far. Focus on the fact that yes, you will one day be on T, even if it doesn’t feel like this at the moment. Also, gender therapy will really help you cope with it. Especially because you are a minor, they aren’t going to put you on T until they feel they are ready for you to be on it. But do what makes you happy and confident. Don’t let anyone make you feel like crap for not being on T. I feel like so often we just want to get to point B as fast as we can and we don’t enjoy the trip and we don’t really deal with feelings. I spent last year mostly whining and miserable and I wish I could have enjoyed things more. Transitioning is a journey not a destination.
I hope this has helped and I’m here for you, okay?
Hey guys! I hope everyone is doing fantastic. So one of my friends is a cis female and she’s working on a novel. She has a character that is FTM and said that she really wants to write this accurately and since she’s a cis female, she doesn’t want to fuck things up. So she asked me what kind of things to avoid.
I said the whole rape and murder trope and having the fact they are trans* being the only aspect of their personality. So what kind of things do you guys like to see in an FTM character, and what kind of things do you think my friend should avoid?
One of my friends know I identify as male but she still keeps on calling me my birth name and female pronouns. I've tried telling her to just call me Vin and use male pronouns but she doesn't listen and I'm too scared to correct her, but it upsets me.
That sucks I’m sorry. I think the best thing to do would be to just remind her. Chances are she doesn’t mean to do it to be mean, but is honestly forgetting. If you get the vibe that she isn’t just forgetting, maybe you don’t want to be friends anymore. But I would just remind her because most people don’t do it to be mean but are honestly forgetting, especially if it’s new. I hope that’s helped.
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Hey guys! So, many of you know that my boyfriend and I are both FTM, and we have a HUGE favor to ask you. Would any of you be willing to send me some money through paypal for binders? We found cheap binders, they are only about $4 each, so we just need like $10 for shipping and stuff. I don’t know how paypal works and I don’t even know if it will work since I don’t have it connected to a bank account, but it would be awesome if you could message me if you can or have information for me.
Hey guys. Help a brother out. I remember how hard it was trying to transition without a binder, and going to unsafe methods to do so. So if you can help out, please do. :) -Blake
Not really a question just wanted to share my good news. I'm Alex and I'm not out at school (I'm 16). But I'm out to a few friends. And my friend O was for some reason talking about nipples and he asked a female friend next to me if female nipples were more sensitive. And another friend T said why didn't you ask "birth name" and O said "but he is male"
That’s awesome, dude! Feel free to share good news any time you guys want, too. :)